The whole hearted way is an approach to life that can be utilized to handle the times in which we fall. Because we all fall short of our own expectations, accepting that we are human in our fall is part of the process of getting back up again and continuing with a glad heart. The whole-hearted way is birthed from the “clown” archetype. The clown’s job is to learn how to come back from a fall. The clown has to learn how to fall with grace. Like the clown, when we know how to fall and come back from the fall, this is evidence that we are doing a good job. How do we live in a whole-hearted way so that we reap the full benefits of coming back from our fall? We can life in the whole-hearted way by learning how to fall which consist of approaching life with a curious mind, putting our all into what we are doing and learning from our mistakes.
Approaching life with a curious mind is a great way to learn how to fall because it allows us to be inquisitive and unashamed to ask questions to gain a better understanding. Curiosity allows us to have the courage to try new things, to be adventurous and to want to approach things in a different manner that will produce different results. Curiosity can be a great teacher and great vehicle in allowing us to approach things with 100% effort.
Putting our all into something like ourselves; our lives, our dreams, our goals is another great way we can learn to fall. For when we do fall we respond. Just the desire to want to put our all into something we are unconsciously setting ourselves up to win no matter what. When we put our all in us we become reflective in our approach to life so that we are minimizing errors and the repetition of learned bad habits. There is a “I will not quit” kind of attitude that says I will put forth the effort everyday whether I fail or succeed. Failure means that you are willing to keep trying. Quitting means you have stopped trying all together. Failing allows to assess why we failed and asking how did we come to make those mistakes and what can we do now to stay on the right track.
Lastly, a great way to learn to fall is by learning from our mistakes. When we do fall how do we respond? Do we look to blame someone else for our mistakes? Do we look at the choices we made that got us there? Do we ask questions that will lead us to a solution? Parents can guide us, protect us and teach us to grow in a certain way, but sometimes life’s lessons are better learned by making our own mistakes. Having that humbling experience we learn what we should and should not do.
We can live a wonderful life, whole-heartedly by giving our all to ourselves in everything that we do. One way to maintain this whole-hearted way of living is by learning how to fall. Being curious about our experiences and the world around us, approaching each task with the same level of priority, giving 100% and leaning from our mistakes will help us to simply live a whole-hearted satisfying life. My son’s football coach reminded me of a simple approach that will sum all this us in just three words, “Don’t Cheat Yourself.”
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